The selves we leave behind

I've been reading Didier Eribon's book about loss and identity. One passage stopped me, not because it's about death - though it is - but because it captures something I see regularly in career transitions. Eribon writes: "We are not quite the same person depending on whom we are with: a relative, a close friend, a colleague from work." Our identity, he argues, is plural and composite - constituted through relationships and the roles we play with different people. When those relationships end, we lose not just the person but the role itself. And with it, part of who we are. Applied to professional life, this explains something I've noticed but struggled to name. When people leave long careers - particularly senior roles in firms or organisations - they don't just lose a job title. They lose the version of themselves that existed in relation to colleagues, clients, the organisation itself.