Holding contradictions

I read Enuma Okora's column in the FT this week (behind the FT Paywall). One paragraph stopped me:

"I have a friend who, whenever I ask how he's doing, takes a moment before answering. Often he'll then express two seemingly conflicting feelings. 'A part of me is feeling grounded and engaged but another part of me is also feeling anxious because I'm concerned about [xyz].' I've grown to admire his willingness to sit with multiple realities, and even to begin practising it myself."

That willingness to hold contradictions, to say "both things are true" without rushing to resolve them, is rare. We aren’t always comfortable with it. We would much prefer coherence.

I wrote recently about the difference between clarity and certainty. That you can know where you're heading without being certain of outcomes. This is related but different. It's not just about accepting uncertainty but about holding multiple, sometimes opposing, truths at the same time, without needing to resolve them into a single story.